Hi, I’m Suzanne. My husband is a physician, which makes me a doctor’s wife. But to tell you the truth, this blog isn’t all that much about medicine – although it does creep into an entry every now and again. It’s mainly about me (and you can get the Cliff’s Notes here) and how I’m handling life, motherhood, and marriage (to a doctor) and all the exciting, frustrating, awful, wonderful things that come with the territory.
If you have questions or comments, or just want to say hello, shoot me an email at LifeofaDoctorsWife [at] gmail.
My first husband was a medical student. I left him when he failed to pass the boards after the second year and he blamed me. (I didn’t make him enough flash cards, the fact he stay up all night the night before playing a video game had NOTHING to do with it.:)) It’s a tough life for everyone involved.
my bf is starting to gather things up to apply for residency. people think he’s going to be some rich guy soon but I’m like “um…he’ll be SEMI well off in another 7 years…” and that’s AFTER LOANS!
Thank you for creating this blog. I came across your blog today and all I can say is WOW! Most of what you have talked about is so true. I am a doctor’s wife as well. My husband is in his 3rd and final (thankfully!) year in Residency. It has been a long road. I have found myself feeling lonely or completely overshadowed by others. People do assume you are well off, but have no clue what happens during the Residency process. Best of luck to you in your endeavors! I will continue to read your blog and nod in agreement! 🙂
I love reading about life in the medical field but I do believe the family should get just as much credit. I’m excited to read your story. I’m also a newlywed with my own struggles and it just goes to show all of us have to make the best of our situations if they get rough, so we can enjoy life more.
Love the Mrs. Doctor 101 by the way. Brilliant.
Wow, I just had to read through all your archives and then say hello because: (1) I am also a doctor’s wife (first year [of 5] resident; we were married all through med school), (2) I also work from home, (3) I also work with words, (4) I, too, fold many, many scrubs. Plus your posts are so amusing! And I always enjoy fellow doctor wife insights – it makes things less lonely when it’s just me, the dog, and the internet at home for those long stretches….
I’m not married to a doctor….My husband was a police officer for 20 years however. I followed you from anothe blog and look forward to reading about your life…..
My fiance is days away from finishing his undergrad then it is off to med school. I like reading your blog because to be honest i’m scared out of my mind about how med school is going to be. You seem so normal and happy and to be honest you make me laugh. I look foward to the rest of your posts! 🙂
I’m married to a doctor, too–we married during his first year of medical school and he is now in his 8th year of family medicine practice post residency. Soooo much nicer than when he was in training! Although I miss it in a weird way–felt like we we in the trenches together. Many, many laughs along the way!
Thank you for creating this blog. I came across your blog today and all I can say is WOW! Most of what you have talked about is so true. I am a doctor’s wife as well. My husband is in his 3rd and final (thankfully!) year in Residency. It has been a long road. I have found myself feeling lonely or completely overshadowed by others. People do assume you are well off, but have no clue what happens during the Residency process. Best of luck to you in your endeavors! I will continue to read your blog and nod in agreement!
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Thanks for writing your blog! It is so nice to know that I’m not alone in the terrible schedules, moving, almost single parenting, and the tightest budget we’ve ever had life of a doctor’s wife. My husband and I just moved across country with our 7.5 month old for him to start his neurology residency. He just started his intern year and then has 3 more years of neurology residency and 2 more years of fellowships. The light at the end of the tunnel is slowly growing larger.
hi! i am a doctor’s wife as well, and he is on his third year now, and I just can’t wait for graduation to come. It feels like I am also graduating 😉 I just started to blog, as I have read some, and thought it would help me express myself, especially that we are thousand miles away from home. I will continue to read your blogs 😉
I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. He just turned 30 and recently decided he wanted to change careers and become a doctor. His undergrad is in the arts so he really is starting from scratch. I love him dearly and we do want a future together but I am worried because of the loooong road ahead and the fact that he’s starting so late. I want a family and to be settled, I just don’t know if it’s worth it to wait and uproot my life depending on where he gets into school and gets a job, etc. It’s nice to know that there is support out there. I don’t know what I’m getting myself into but I hope that by reading your blog that I’ll be offered at least some insight. It’s exciting and scary all at once!
Hi Heather, I am kind of in the same scenario as you. My boyfriend and I started dating 2 years ago right after undergrad. Right after college, he started pursuing his PhD at Hopkins for electrical and computer engineering. Although he isn’t pursuing an MD, he still goes thru the same hardships, struggles, and years of dedication. He has to be in this program for at least 6 years and his time is fully devoted to the program. We actually had a discussion early on about how much time/dedication it would require from both of us and I agreed to be patient. But I can’t lie, at times it’s difficult to be patient. He is the man of my dreams and we have talked about marriage but at the same time, I know it won’t be happening until 2016 at the earliest. I’ve tried to keep myself busy with grad school and excelling at work but at the same time when I have a desire to get married and start a family by 30 and see all of my friends getting married, it’s gets discouraging sometimes. Trust me, you’re not alone 🙂
My bf is in his first year of med school. We are in a long – distance, inter – faith, inter – racial relationship. I know life with definitely not be easy, but it is comforting to know there are other women who have “made it through the trenches together”. He has seen me at my worst and best, and all I want to do is to support and love him through these difficult years.
I love your blog and can relate to so many of your posts! Thanks for sharing your stories! XO
Thank you so much for creating this website! It is very refreshing knowing that I am not alone. My boyfriend and I started dating 2 years ago, right when he starting in the PhD program for computer engineering. Although he isn’t pursuing an MD, the requirements, hardships, and years of dedication (6 years) are pretty similiar. A dream of mine has been to get married and to start a family by 30. Realistically, it’s looking like he won’t finish until 2016 at the earliest (I’ll be 29). I go back and forth sometimes wondering if it’s worth the wait, esp. when I see all of my friends and family getting married. Perhaps if I knew what the pros and cons were regarding marrying someone while they are pursuing their PhD, it may help to shed some light on the matter. Any advice you would have would be greatly appreciated! Thanks 🙂
I’ve just read through your posts from the past year and love your honest commentary! I, too, am a doctor’s wife (1st year out of 5 in residency, but really 3rd out of 7 since he switched partway through), and have a lot of the same internal monologue that you seem to. We don’t have kids yet, mostly because we don’t quite see how they would fit into our crazy busy lives, and I am so interested to read about your experience adding a baby to your lives. Thank you for sharing your perspective on life!
I am so happy I have found your blog. I too am a Doctors wife. I have found it refreshing to read. Your candid honesty is much appreciated about the great misconception of being married to a physician. I have a full time job and family and the same worries as all wives.
Hi! I am glad to find your blog. I totally agree that being a doctor’s wife isn’t’ as glamorous as the stereotypes cough up to be. It’s a journey, a never ending journey of happiness, sadness, motivation, toleration, and understanding. Especially understanding! My friends and relatives always say to me that you landed on a jackpot. But I am a college graduate making a little less than my husband and I did not quit my fulltime job. My husband goes to work and when he’s home he’s not resting because of the constant worries. He is by far a very good husband but the stress gets to him. Often time, he shares his worries and I think as a doctor’s wife we are uncertified therapists. I think we have to be very strong-for ourselves and our husbands.
Just stumbled upon your blog and enjoying the read 🙂 Just started blogging about my journey being married to a doctor as well! Glad to be able to relate.