Well, I am reluctant to post this. Mainly because I so enjoyed seeing a cute kitty at the top of the home page.
There. Problem solved. (Photo from here.)
Anyway. Last night I had a long talk with my oldest and dearest friend, L. She is having a Relationship Crisis. It breaks my heart. The girl has been through some rough times lately and she deserves happiness.
“Should it be this hard?” she said. “We love each other. Shouldn’t the rest just fall into place?”
Over and over she used words like “easy” and “simple.”
But I don’t think words like that belong in a relationship – especially a marriage. Any relationship takes work. A marriage is no different. And it can be damn hard work.
Worthwhile? One hundred and seventy bajillion percent. But hard nonetheless.
Let’s blame television and Hollywood for the distorted image that love is effortless… That the happy ending is neat and easy and tied up in a two-hour bow. Because I just don’t think real life is like that.
Okay… Sometimes it’s easy. Those times are priceless. But I think you can only truly get to easy once you’ve done the hard work. It’s like any job. You put in the hours and the due diligence and the grunt work – for years or sometimes even DECADES. Then you can sit back and have your underlings do the heavy lifting while you leave work at two and go golfing.
I realize I’ve only been married for ten months. But Husband and I have been together for nearly eight years. So we’ve already done a lot of work. A lot of getting to know each other. Of self sacrifice. Of compromise. I recognize we have years – hopefully many decades – of hard work before us. But that marriage we’re forging… we’re going to earn it.
“It’s never easy, no matter what they say.” – Stevie Nicks